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Gestational Delusions

June 4, 2013 by krisis

The eventual baby is really starting to have its own personality – or at least one that we’ve ascribed to it – while still in belly.

Maybe that’s because it’s so obviously a unique unit from E now. There are parts of it pressed assymmetrically against one side, practically screaming, “I am not your wife’s biology; I am sentient and sovereign.”

So we have stories. Stories about its kicks and throttles, its hiccups and turns. We’ve done that very criminal parental thing that I despise, anthropomorphizing a living thing that is just a simple fetus. It turns out, I just cannot help it.

This makes me happy and certain about not finding out the sex of our offspring. For the first four or five months the first question people asked was “Was it planned?” (which: unless you are my bestie best friend (which many of you are; this is the internet), that is such a gross and overly familiar question and I cannot believe you asked it), and then like flipping a switch it became, “Will/Do you know the sex?”

Let’s lay this out. People want to know the sex so they can build a narrative on the behalf of your unborn child. They do not have the benefit of unlimited belly time that you or your partner(s) have to make up all those little stories, so they are grasping at a straw.

A harpy

A few months ago I sat in a meeting where a man just as pregnant as me (that is to say, not at all, but with a wife as far along as E) revealed he was expecting a girl. I watched as harpies bearing weather-beaten cliches descended from every direction, their sagging breasts flopping in the air.

(That’s not a dig at their actual breasts. I’m just working the harpies metaphor.)

“Girls are so precious.”

“You know she’ll be daddy’s little girl.”

“Better to have a girl first. Boys are so difficult.”

It was then I learned the true meaning of the phrase, “I’m so angry I could spit.” The harpies kept unspooling their stories. The dreaded “princess” was wielded. Not one tale was about how smart and capable his little girl would be, how strong and bold.  Nope. This wee four-month old fetus would be cute, loving, and submissive, as all girls are and should be.

Excuse me, I’m going to spit right now. I Invite you to do the same.

Okay, we’re back.

I’m sure our eventual baby is going to be cute and loving, but that is not the only story we are painting across E’s belly. Our eventual baby is also going to be intelligent, conniving, adventurous, curious, and a fan of Douglas Adams. Yes, even if it is a boy. ;)

After careful consideration, I have decided to be okay with becoming that standard parent who makes up his own in uetero narratives, because I know that my narratives will always be unique.

Related posts:

  1. Baby McFidgets
  2. on naming a baby
  3. Excitement Is Ruining My Grammar
  4. spilling
  5. What’s In a Name?
  6. about that name

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  1. Allie says

    June 4, 2013 at 1:12 pm

    Do you know that I love you two? Because I do.

    And I’m terribly glad that you’re becoming parents before me, for what’s probably a selfish reason. Because now, thank goodness, I’ll have the best kind of smart, adventurous and free-thinking parental example to follow. It’ll be great.

  2. krisis says

    June 4, 2013 at 1:27 pm

    One of us maybe literally said this phrase to the other one this past weekend: “Do you know that I love Allie? Because I do.” I can’t even recall why exactly, but I’m certain it had to do with the Cheerios commercial.

    I’m all for selfish pre-parenting. We totally waited for several saner and/or more adventurous friends to produce offspring before we took the plunge ;)

  3. Lindsay says

    June 18, 2013 at 8:57 am

    Spitting along with you.

    We are constantly getting “oh, aren’t you SO PRETTY!” directed at Cady and I am armed with a, “she’s so smart! tell [clueless well-meaning person] what you learned yesterday!” (or something).

    Exhausting, but worth it.

    Princesses have amazingly (thankfully!) not yet become a “thing.” This book, however, has:

    http://amzn.to/14HLlw4

    (Written awaiting the arrival of the author’s goddaughter, who also happens to be Tori Amos’s daughter, Tash.) :-)

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